Comments on: Cancer From the Sidelines – Part 1 https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/ Women's Fiction and Romance Author Mon, 13 Oct 2014 17:35:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.8 By: Suzanne Lilly https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-543 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 04:13:21 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-543 It was wonderful to read how you and your dad mended your issues. You picked the perfect way to reach out to him, and thankfully he heard your words. I’m so glad you had the time to do that before you had to say goodbye.

]]> By: Pamela https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-513 Sat, 05 Oct 2013 01:08:05 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-513 I loved your story about dad! That’s the kind of man he was. Always trying to improve himself and the lives of those around him. My own personal journey with cancer has Opened my eyes to the world around. On the one hand it reminds me that life is a finite thing. If life could be so easily And arbitrarily taken away from me, then what do I have to lose by some risk taking? So I tried scuba diving, motorcycle riding, standup paddle boarding, running, rollerblading! You get the picture. This year I will have completed five 5K races! Year to roller blading marathons. I guess what I’m saying is I’m not afraid to live anymore!

]]> By: Suzanne Vince https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-512 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 23:28:04 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-512 In reply to Patricia.

You never know what you’re capable of until you’re faced with a situation. I think you’re a lot braver than you know. So sorry about your precious mother. Your dad sounds like a great guy.

]]> By: Suzanne Vince https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-511 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 23:25:19 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-511 In reply to Nancy J..

I guess the fear of dying is deep-seated in some people. I’m sorry you never got to connect with her on that level. Thankfully you’re enjoying such a great mother-daughter bond with Carly.

]]> By: Marianne https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-492 Wed, 02 Oct 2013 01:47:32 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-492 I’m on the second box of kleenex, what a journey with Daddy-O!

]]> By: Nancy J. https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-491 Wed, 02 Oct 2013 01:12:41 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-491 Your story is so sweet, Suzanne. I think it’s every girl’s dream to connect with her father like that. You had courage to confront him and he had equal courage to make efforts to mend things. What an important example of the power of speaking your truth. Cancer affected my life in a similar way but with a very different ending to the story. When my mom received her diagnosis (she had melanoma), I expected the experience to create an environment where we’d finally connect. I tried to have meaningful, “before you die”, conversations with her but she just couldn’t do it. I cared for her in my home for months. We had the time and opportunity but she preferred to watch Judge Judy and talk about the idiots in the world rather than have a conversation that made her face her mortality. When she died, my dream of an authentic relationship with her died, too. On the flip side, I have a dear friend who has been fighting breast cancer for 15 years. We have these incredible, heavy chats about death, family, loss, love, living in the here and now, and everything in between. While I’ll always mourn the loss of my mom, I feel her inability to face her own mortality has made me all the more interested in facing my own with my heart and eyes wide open.

]]> By: Patricia https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-490 Tue, 01 Oct 2013 23:19:22 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-490 Well I have a story, but unfortunately it’s still too painful to talk about even though my mother passed away almost 6 years ago. She was brave, too, braver than I think I could ever be, but the real trooper was my dad who stayed faithfully by her side every single step of the way. She held on as long as she could for him. She died about 3 weeks shy of their 50th wedding anniversary.

I love your story about finding a way to get through to your dad. You just never know what will stick or get through thick skulls.

Patricia Rickrode
w/a Jansen Schmidt

]]> By: Suzanne Vince https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-489 Tue, 01 Oct 2013 20:25:24 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-489 In reply to Marianna Heusler.

Marianna – what a wonderful thing you do. I just visited the website for Visible Ink. What a great program for cancer survivors.

]]> By: Marianna Heusler https://suzannevince.com/2013/10/cancer-from-the-sidelines-part-1/#comment-488 Tue, 01 Oct 2013 19:01:10 +0000 https://suzannevince.com/?p=621#comment-488 My best friend had breast cancer and lost both her breasts. She came back stronger than ever, but I know that every day she wonders if it will come back. The scary thing about cancer is how random it is, and the cure is so brutal. I work with cancer patients in the Visible Ink Program, mentoring them as they write about their journey. I salute all of them and you also, who are walking on this difficult road.

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